McCain’s Extramarital Affair with Cindy Ended His Friendship with Reagans in the 1970s

Strained: Reagan with McCain before she endorsed him earlier this year
Strained: Reagan with McCain before she endorsed him earlier this year

The Los Angeles Times published a story today, front page above the fold, detailing the adulterous personal history of a presidential candidate, a story that would be upending the dynamics of the 2008 presidential campaign — possibly even throwing the election to the other party — had the story been about a Democratic candidate.
The media will ignore this story, even when McCain campaigns in California for a constitutional amendment that protects marriage — not from adultery, the real threat to marriage — but from gay people seeking equal rights.
Instead, the story is about John McCain, the Republican, and is therefore bound to be ignored by the rest of the mainstream press.

The only possible interest the story might generate in the corporate media — and in conservative circles, where McCain is already not particularly well-liked — stems from the fact that McCain’s extramarital affair with his current wife, Cindy, permanently ended his friendship with Ronald Reagan and, especially, his wife, Nancy, around the same time Reagan was running for president 30 years ago.

The Times article opens with the strained moments around Nancy Reagan’s tepid endorsement of McCain earlier this year:

Outside her Bel-Air home, Nancy Reagan stood arm in arm with John McCain and offered a significant — but less than exuberant — endorsement.

“Ronnie and I always waited until everything was decided, and then we endorsed,” the Republican matriarch said in March. “Well, obviously this is the nominee of the party.” They were the only words she would speak during the five-minute photo op.

In a written statement, she described McCain as “a good friend for over 30 years.” But that friendship was strained in the late 1970s by McCain’s decision to divorce his first wife, Carol, who was particularly close to the Reagans, and within weeks marry Cindy Hensley, the young heiress to a lucrative Arizona beer distributorship.

The Times reports that the Reagans sided completely with McCain’s first wife in the divorce. They assisted her in finding a new home in Southern California and then helped her find a new career after Reagan became president.

In his 2002 memoir, Worth the Fighting For, McCain himself acknowledged the termination of the Reagan’s friendship. “My divorce from Carol,” he wrote, “whom the Reagans loved, caused a change in our relationship. Nancy … was particularly upset with me and treated me on the few occasions we encountered each other after I came to Congress with a cool correctness that made her displeasure clear. I had, of course, deserved the change in our relationship.”

The Times report today also casts doubt on McCain’s oft-repeated story that he waited a decent interval after leaving Carol before he began his affair with Cindy Hensley:

In [his memoir], McCain wrote that he had separated from Carol before he began dating Hensley.

“I spent as much time with Cindy in Washington and Arizona as our jobs would allow,” McCain wrote. “I was separated from Carol, but our divorce would not become final until February of 1980.”

An examination of court documents tells a different story. McCain did not sue his wife for divorce until Feb. 19, 1980, and he wrote in his court petition that he and his wife had “cohabited” until Jan. 7 of that year — or for the first nine months of his relationship with Cindy.

Although McCain suggested in his autobiography that months passed between his divorce and remarriage, the divorce was granted April 2, 1980, and he wed Hensley in a private ceremony five weeks later. McCain obtained an Arizona marriage license on March 6, 1980, while still legally married to his first wife.

While McCain was a prisoner of war in Vietnam, Carol kept their family — their daughter and her two sons by a previous marriage whom McCain adopted — together and became an active member of the POW movement.

On Christmas Eve 1969, however, Carol McCain suffered devastating injuries in a single car accident. The Times article says she “she broke both legs, an arm and her pelvis. She was operated on a dozen times, and in the treatment she lost about five inches in height.”

When McCain returned from Vietnam, he told friends that Carol was no longer the woman he married, according to the Times. That would have been about 1973, just six years before he began his affair with Cindy Hensley.

One interesting side note is that McCain’s divorce attorney was George E. “Bud” Day, a fellow POW who was a key player in the Swiftboating of McCain’s former friend, John Kerry, in the 2004 campaign. Bud Day, who was closely associated with a group that has become synonymous with lying about an opponent’s record, now heads up McCain’s so-called Truth Squad.


Just imagine the firestorm we’d be enduring if Barack Obama were the subject of a story that had any of these elements: an extramarital affair, lying on the record about the timing of the affair and an estrangement from a political icon caused by the affair.

Obama — or any Democrat — would be hounded by the media and the rightwing noise machine to a degree that would very likely make his chances of winning in November somewhere between slim and none.

By contrast, it is as equally a dead certainty there will be nothing in the news about McCain’s adultery, sex lies and estrangement from the Reagans after today — not even when McCain campaigns in California for a constitutional amendment that supposedly protects marriage — not from adultery, the real threat to marriage — but from gay people seeking equal rights.


  • nikolai
    July 11, 2008 - 11:16 am | Permalink

    Wow! Nancy Reagan is hot!!!

    Seriously tho, the Reagans DID have some morals?

    You coulda knocked me over with a feather…

  • Jess Wonderin
    July 12, 2008 - 11:19 pm | Permalink

    Oh John, this doesn’t match the “we dated for months after my divorce before marrying” tale . . . seem as a “connected person” you were able to get your Arizona Wedding license BEFORE your Divorce was final and married five weeks later . . . maybe “gay people’ made him do it.

    And we also hear the “McCain G.I. Bill” proposed to replace the Webb Bill didn’t make it either . . . seems a list of lonely rich women’s phone numbers and 3 Divorce Lawyer Discount Coupons wouldn’t cut it for most returning G.I.s . . .

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  • amos33
    August 14, 2008 - 1:58 pm | Permalink

    One thing that blesses me when they dig stuff like this up is that I am sure, no one who reports these things has every done anything similar and is beyond rebuke.

    “Let him who is without sin, cast the first stone.”

    You are wrong about one thing: The Media will be all over this one. If it had been “Obama” the media would have said “Oh that was in his formulative years and has no place in todays discussions and that the Republicans should be ashamed of themselves for digging up that dirt.

    peace, out

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  • anne
    February 7, 2018 - 5:16 pm | Permalink

    I am interested to know and have heard it rumored that Donald Trump dated Cindy Hensley. If that is true, then it would explain a lot about how absolutely hateful John McCain is with Donald Trump.

    I think this is something worth looking into, perhaps through social articles for earlier times in the New York Times, or even newspapers in Phoenix. John McCain is not a nice person, quite the opposite and as a senator of my state, he is pretty much worthless.

    I sure would like to find out if his disregard for our president is deeper than political views.

    As far as John McCain’s POW days, ask his fellow soldiers that were in the prison why McCain was treated well by the Vietnamese, but they weren’t. His injury? Probably from something during combat. When the was being taken home and the men from his unit were lined up, not even one, would salute him. I wonder why.

    I hope someone gets behind this to finally let the public know that John McCain is just jealous as hell of Donald Trump. I can tell you as a woman, if I had the choice between the two, it would never have been John McCain, an actual traitor to his country. Aside from being a worthless senator, he could never stand next to Donal Trump and shine.

    • Pensito Editors
      February 13, 2018 - 8:19 am | Permalink

      In 2008, we covered the allegations from McCain’s fellow Republicans that he was a traitor during his time as a POW in Vietnam.

    • September 1, 2018 - 8:51 am | Permalink

      Oh, how WRONG you are! You should be ashamed. How how a despicable human being you are! Are you so sinless in your life that you can make what a decision that is God’s…and God’s only!

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  • July 3, 2018 - 9:06 am | Permalink

    Homewreckers! Adulterers will b in hell!

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